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How to Change Your Life in 21 Days
Preface
Just imagine this:-
You are going to buy a new car. You have looked at all the possibilities
and decided on your hearts desire. Now you are about to trade in your old
car and pick up the new one. Your excitement is bubbling.
At the show room the salesman takes your money and helps with the
paperwork. He shows you the car on the forecourt and hands you the key
and walks off.
You get into the car and realise that there are significant differences in the
layout of controls and instruments. You cannot find where to put the key
and have no idea how to start the car. There is no users manual. You are
confused and need help.
You go to find the salesman and find the office closed, everyone has gone
home.
You have the key, you know where you want to go but don’t know how to
propel yourself in the right direction. How frustrating!
What would that make you feel like?
Yet here you are using this amazing mind and body but no one ever gave
you a users manual. Are you getting the best from yourself?
This workbook will give you several methods to begin to work with
yourself more effectively. It will help you to Design the Changes you
want in your life.
Have you noticed there are those who seem to move through life easily,
all avenues open to them. Yet some people no matter how hard they try,
the same does not seem to happen. Designing Change has been created
for you, to help you, get from where you are now in your life, to where
you want to be. It will take you through several stages until eventually
you will find that creating what you want becomes easier and easier.
Create changes in your life as you want them. Give yourself the ability
and confidence to direct your life.
There is one secret that helps those who understand it pass through life
with relative ease. The secret is that we move towards the things that we
think about most.
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Our deepest fear
is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are
powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness,
that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of the Universe.
Your playing small doesn't serve
the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about
shrinking so that other people
won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest
the glory that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us;
It's in Everyone!
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own
fear
our presence automatically
liberates others.
From
A Return to Love
Marianne Williamson
I had always believed that the
quote was from Nelson Mandela’s
Inaugural Speech 1994. I was
advised by Alun Richards that it
was from the above source. Thank
you Alun.
Try is a dangerous word to the
subconscious it means that you do
not have to do it. You just have to
try, attempt, but not succeed!
Think positively - live positively.
Think negatively - live negatively.
Think muddled - live muddled
In fact you are what you think. Look at your life and where you are. This
is a reflection of how you think. To change your life you only have to
change what you think about most. Think in the correct way about the
things that you want most and you will move towards them.
The purpose of Designing Change:- To help people make positive
changes in the way they go about their lives; to help them feel better
about themselves in all situations; to become happier with their
achievements; to become even more successful.
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Introduction
Hello and welcome to the Designing Change Workbook
By following the experiences set for you in this book you will be able to make
changes in your life. You will be guided through a series of practical
experiences which will lead you to understand how to reach your goals through
a collection of powerful personal tools. At the end of the course you will have
at your disposal a collection of tools which will help you steer a path through
life exactly as you desire. The types of change are your choice. You will find
that they can be as personal as you wish. The direction in which you choose to
go can be as dynamic or subtle as you please. That choice is yours.
By undertaking this course you will be breaking conventions set by both
yourself and those around you. You will be building upon your own self belief
system. During the course you will find that the limits imposed by the world
around can be altered. It is only your perception which needs to shift. When
you think differently then things around you change
When you understand more of how your mind works you can begin to make the
changes you desire in your life. The Designing Change Workbook is designed
to help you overcome limitations and allow you to move forward. Once begun
your journey through life will become more in your control.
I have created this workbook to be of help to any adult at whatever their level of
personal development. Some people may come to Designing Change with
experience of similar processes, others will be new to the concepts. Some may
well have tried other approaches and found that they were not suitable.
Designing Change offers you several innovative and well proven avenues to
creating lasting and growing changes in your life. Parts of Designing Change
will suit some of you more than others, focus on those experiences that create
the most change for you and develop them. However please complete all the
experiences in the sequence that they have been set. All the experiences have
useful applications to specific aspects of your life at particular times.
This course is based upon my work as a therapist. The therapy which I offer is
drawn from Neuro Linguistic Programming ( NLP ). A simple description of
NLP is “the Art and Science of getting what you want.” During therapy I help
individuals to create new directions in their lives. We do this in two ways, by
setting new motivating goals and by helping to release subconscious limitations.
I must warn you that the processes are very seductive. Please accept my
warning, many people find themselves totally absorbed by this area.
There are many books written on the subject of NLP. This Workbook,
however, is designed to be very practical, teaching as it develops, without
involving the use of unexplained jargon. If you should wish to read more about
NLP then there is a very useful list of other books at the end of this book.
The simplest description which I can give you of the processes used throughout
the workbook is this. First of all imagine that the brain is made up of billions of
cells connected by a network of microscopic links. Each cell has the capacity to
link to between 10,000 and 20,000 others. Each new thought or experience we
have creates new links. Most of these new links connect into older ones. In this
way we build most new ideas or experiences upon older ones. Some of the
links in our brains are well used, they become like motorways for ideas to flow
along. Other patterns, or links, are less well used and are therefore like grassy
pathways or tracks. Indeed, as some pathways become less well used they can
be overgrown. A habit, or a particular way we have of doing things, can be
imagined as using one of the motorway links. The techniques drawn from NLP
strive to create new links in our neural networks by using positive links which
already exist. Sometimes diversions help create new approaches.
If what I have written above is unclear look at it this way. To change a habit I
will encourage a client to imagine a positive new behaviour to replace it. This
will be imagined very strongly to create new brain links. Then the client will
bring to mind three or four positive experiences. These positive experiences
will be linked to the imagined one. This is done by a process called anchoring
which you will read about later. Through this method the client creates a new
motorway link. Like all major roads this will need to be used and maintained in
order for it to work efficiently.
The Designing Change Workbook is structured to lead you through a series of
practical experiences to develop your mental skills. At the same time you will
be developing your ability to visualise and set clear achievable goals. At the
end of the course you will be able to plan and design changes in your life as you
choose.
This course is based upon the understanding that you already possess the inner
resources to enable you to change and become more like the person you want to
be. In addition I will also encourage you to notice how other people achieve
their own success. What is it that you notice about other people when they are
successful? How do they do what they do? In NLP this is called modelling.
The life skills that you have already perfected can be used successfully at many
levels. In addition you will have collected and created many beliefs, values,
habits and approaches to life. Some of these will support you in positive ways
others will be less helpful. Some of the less helpful aspects will in fact limit the
way in which you go about your life. Many of these aspects are hidden from
our normal conscious daily lives and are difficult to recognise. Most habits are
outside conscious thought most of the time. Through Designing Change you
will be able to recognise where and how you create limits for yourself and how
to alter them.
There are many other courses that will help you to make choices about how you
develop your life in relation to specific areas such as finances, organising time,
your health and how you live. Designing Change is more about how you do
things and learn to take control of your mind. During the course you will learn
to utilise the logical left side of your brain and the visionary, creative, right side
of your brain. In addition you will come to understand the difference between
the operations of the conscious and subconscious parts of your mind. Our
subconscious is like the 8/9 of the iceberg below the surface. It makes sense to
utilise this enormous power in a constructive manner. Remember also that the
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A true story told by Lou Tice.
Several years ago in Australia the annual Sydney, Melbourne road race was about to start. The press were surprised to see the figure of 61 year old Cliff Young. All the other athletes were dressed in the latest running shorts and shoes. Cliff’s attire was less fashionable. The reporters bustled around him wanting to know why he was running, who he was, what he did, as the press always do. They discovered that Cliff was a farmer who had a cattle ranch. As a man of limited means Cliff rounded up cattle on foot, running after them,rather than using a jeep or horse as was normal. He felt that he was fit enough for the race despite his age and inexperience. You would have to be fit to anticipate running 560 miles or over 800 kms As the runners left the start Cliff kept up with the pack making no significant impression. At the end of the first day, 18 hours of running, the pack stopped for the day, as was standard practice. Cliff, however, continued running. The accepted pattern of running was run 18 hours and rest 6. You can imagine the comments that were made by the rest of the pack and the press. “ He’ll burn himself out.” “A man of his age! No chance.” “He will need to sleep sometime.” And so on. The race continued and all the other racers stuck to the same old pattern, run 18 sleep 6. Cliff continued running for longer and sleeping less. He began to open up a substantial lead. In fact it was only into the penultimate day thatthe other racers began to realise that Cliff was so far ahead that unless he did “drop” then there was no way that even the fastest runner could catch him.
Cliff continued running into the final day, he was now expected to reduce the race record by around one and a half days. The television crews were so excited, as were the rest of the Australian population, that they asked Cliff if he could slow his pace and finish the race in prime TV time. You can imagine Cliff’s response. At the end of the race he was toasted as a national hero, an accolade he well deserved. If you glance back through that story you will recognise the traits of many other successful ground breakers over the years. Over all he ran to his plan and ignored the comments of those who expected him to fail. He also broke the standard conventions. His main attributes must have a been a strong self belief and an ability to think beyond conventional wisdom
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