If you are like many of my clients you will have reached that point where you are ready to deal with your anger.
I often find that the stimulus to seek help is an ultimatum from a partner or friend. Sometime it can even be a brush with the law or a row that has caused a serious threat to a loved one or the potential break up of a relationship.
People who phone me are often the partners of angry people. The common statement is “I really love him / her but cannot cope when they are angry and out of control.”
When I speak to the angry person it is usual for them to be very upset about the problems that they are causing. In particular they find that the people nearest and dearest to them are the ones who suffer the most.
The other common feature is that you, as the others who experience the out bursts will probably not understand why they happen. It seems to be a mystery that you cannot control yourself. Why do you blow up out of all proportion to the minor argument that starts over something and apparently nothing?
Many clients can spot a basic pattern to the structure of an out burst but then cannot recognise the place to intervene and stop the process.
What happens when you come to a one to one session?
The first session will be mainly discussion. We will talk about your life experiences in particular about how you were influenced by those around you when you were quite young. Early role models are often important. Also important as are the ways in which you leaned to express your emotions. This will give a picture of how they angry out bursts have developed and how they fit in with your experiences.
We will also begin to question how the anger is triggered With all angry people there is a structure as to how anger is expressed and what causes it to get out of hand. You may not appreciate it now but there is a series of events that will be common to all your uncontrolled angry events.
This questioning process will lead you to a new understanding of your emotions. This is then the first step to controlling your anger.
In the first instance we will install / teach two new process.
How to recognise when you could become angry
How to walk away from potentially explosive situations
This is the first part of the process. In future session you will be lead to gain greater control and also to release anger that existed in your past but has been blighting your current life.
The number of session needed for these process to be fully understood and installed will vary. Some people find two sessions enough to make progress others need up to 8.
Sessions can be weekly or spread over a longer period of time.
Contact me at
1 Elderberry Close
Tel (00 44) 01535 692207
Mobile: 07931 315 014,